It feels surreal, this post Roe America. Despite all the mess, uproar, confusion and uncertainty, things are feeling way off center. In these moments, I seek clarity of what I know for sure. I am fully confident that I will continue to fight for you and your right to exist, to own yourself, to have body autonomy and reproductive freedom! I’d like to rid the world of its social ills, but I am only one person in a sea of many, trying to take care of the children that are here now. You see, most pro-choice folks are not ‘pro-abortion’. We consider ourselves ‘pro-conscious choice’, simply because there is respect for the complexities of abortion and the importance of respecting a woman’s right to safe and legal access to abortion services. It’s also none of my business what a woman does with her body. To the numerous folks who assume my heart is haunted as a result of abortion, you are mistaken. I am one of the fortunate ones to never experience complications that would cause me to be in a painstaking place where a choice needs to be made. In fact, I believe we need to respect the right to safe and legal access to abortion services and work to reduce the need. Many pro-choice folks are working to do just that! We need a major pivot amongst this issue, as well as an equal rights amendment to the Constitution. We put one into the Iraq Constitution after we rebuilt that country, only to return home to our Sweet Land of Liberty where we have yet to do the same on our own turf!
Why is abortion needed? Why are we fighting for our reproductive freedoms? Here is why…
-We need to trust women, not govern them, in order for women to be free and equal.
-When the Constitution of the USA was written, women were considered property. Our lives, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness were not even considered at that time. We were just as equal as a herd of cows, flock of sheep, or any other livestock a man owned (If you were a white, European man and living in the newly formed USA). If we are to claim to be a progressive nation, we need to understand our history (or better yet, ‘herstory’).
-Up until 1973, it was still legal to rape your wife. We were not allowed to keep the money we made. We could not obtain a credit card in our name unless our husbands co-signed for us. And when we were escorted down the isle on our wedding day, this originally was an exchange of property. Women were ‘given away’ as property of our fathers, to become property of our husbands.
-Lady Liberty is a model of a famous prostitute from France, gifted to us by ￼France. ￼
-If you live in Wisconsin, you think that federal protections are not needed, and that the power should go back to the states to decide whether an abortion should be a right for women, you have not just gone back 50 years, you’ve actually gone back 177 years, when the state of Wisconsin criminalized abortion in 1849. We need (and deserve) Federal Level recognition of ourselves.
-Criminalizing Abortion will not end abortion. There will be more back alley abortions, loss of lives, coat hangers, and luxury plane rides to other countries (some States, for now), and only if you had the resources. Hypocrisy at its finest!
-For some women, termination of pregnancy saved their lives! ￼￼￼ It will continue to save women’s lives.￼
-They are coming for birth control next, especially IUDs, so if you like this method of birth control (and for some women, health conditions), be forewarned! If these are outlawed, you will no longer be able to prevent a fertilized egg from implantation, so it will abort every month.
-Statistics Show that funding women’s health centers, especially in urban areas where many poor women reside, provides access not only to birth control, but to necessary health screenings and medical care they would otherwise not receive. We know this action alone reduces abortions. Educate yourself on title X, the law that prevents the use of taxpayer dollars to fund abortions. Which I personally do not agree with, but so it is…￼￼￼￼
-Men need to teach boys to respect women, to not take advantage of them, and for goodness sake, stop raping!
-The horror of incest and generational cycles of sexual abuse remain issues we can barely talk about.
-There are pedophiles who deliberately work in positions of power who have easy access to children and young people…Presidents, Priests, Pastors, Physicians, Teachers, and others.
-Consider the thousands of kids in the foster care system, or kids without a mom or dad who need a mentor, a trusted adult to be a role model for them? Where is the line drawn between ‘pro-birth’ and ‘pro-life?’ If you take issue with social programs, plan to absorb many more!
-Why do we continue to purchase products from companies that degrade women or sexualize our youth, and then get angry when young people answer the call to be sexual and unintentionally impregnate? A girl who is menstruating can be anywhere between 10 and 17 years old. However, she cannot adopt a baby, yet she is expected to birth and mother one? This is a baby birthing a baby. What about her life.
-If we allow the circumstances of a conception to determine if a pregnancy can be terminated legally or morally, than this ‘pro-choice argument’ becomes very hypocritical!
-What impact do sex crimes, sex trafficking, and sex addiction have in our society? What about the women who have to sell their bodies for food or a place to live? How might we help them?
-Why are women blamed for their rape? What does it mean when someone says, ‘She was asking for it!’ or ‘Women should only have the right to keep her legs shut!’ Why do women need to prepare to protect herself before going out, whether that’s by using a fingernail polish to dip into her drink to see if it’s been tainted, use the buddy system to use the bathroom or walk home safely, while a guy grabs his keys and goes. Why is ‘rape culture’ so prevalent in our campuses.
-We still live in a culture of Patriarchy, a system of dominance and control, where power over people rules the land. And consider the implications when ‘God is Man’, as we hear references to ‘he/his/him’ in our religious practice, and assume ‘Man is God’.
-War on small and large scales often results in loss of life. When a village is bombed in the name of freedom, are we counting the value of thousands of civilian lives from the dessert sands the same way we count you and me? I do not believe so!
Why is Abortion health care? There are health risks and a multitude of conditions that girls and women can develop in pregnancy, as well as conditions that contribute to a baby’s lack of viability upon birth. There are women who terminated babies who were planned, loved, and wanted for a multitude of reasons. Abortion is so very multifaceted. Dig deep to find some empathy for women in these positions who choose to end, or cannot carry a pregnancy. Thank you to those people who support women in crisis pregnancies where birth and/or adoption can be a reality, without the risk of poverty, homelessness, further abuse, death, or shunning looming in the background. And let’s take care of all our children, those already here who are hungry, hurting, homeless and scared. Every pro-choice person I know loves babies and children.
So with all of this written, I pledge my love and devotion to being an instrument of peace and healing. I believe deep down in my heart, for reasons that are painfully heartbreaking, we need to continue progressing forward, with freedom for women to make their own healthcare decisions, entrusted with full autonomy and ownership of their own bodies. And we need to shift our focus to tackling the issues that contribute to the need for abortion. Our lives, liberty and the pursuit of happiness, health and full potential require this! Women deserve federal recognition and laws to ensure our rights, equality and our privacy in these intimate realities of our lives.
…And I will continue to fight for you, regardless of where you stand!